
I've noticed an increase in the number of Leaders i've been talking with recently, who have been feeling overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility and taking themselves amost to burnout, some of them resigning altogether from their leadership positions as they feel they are the only ones feeling passionate about the results.
One lady who I have been coaching shared with me just the other day, about the fact that her team members are not pulling their weight in her eyes, not helping to make decisions and not getting involved generally in operations in a way that they should be. So being a very conscientious individual she has been making up for the lack of weight pulling by pulling more weight herself... Basically doing their jobs and making their decisions, in a bid to speed things up and get the work done.
I asked her to think back to when this happened first and how she handled it. She was very quickly able to get back to her first recollection and her immediate reaction, when initially, she felt let down or disappointed secretly and then she began taking on the task, having more work to do, until the team were not only allowing her to pull more weight, they were now critisising her when stuff didnt get done! Weird role reversal...
During the conversation she realised she had created this situation for herself. By being the one who continued to show up and take responsibility, she was not only taking on more responsibility for herself, she was taking it away from the team.
They were in turn feeling quite disempowered and also were low on morale as they were unable to be creative in the way they wanted to be in their roles. The next week she got the team together and they discussed this responsibility theme and each member felt strongly about it. They had witnessed the leader taking on more and more and assumed thats what she wanted or that she didnt think they were capable, so they let her take more and more on and felt more and more removed themselves!
An honest and open conversation ensued with the Leader allowing the responsibility to be shared back out amongst the team, as a result new ideas and new initiatives were discussed.
Of course, as leader you take overall accountability for the success/achievement of the project, thats why you are in a position of leadership but you have a team to help you deliver the goals and they are as keen for it to succeed as you are. Do remember to allow them to join in and to take responsibility for their own part in the goal...
One lady who I have been coaching shared with me just the other day, about the fact that her team members are not pulling their weight in her eyes, not helping to make decisions and not getting involved generally in operations in a way that they should be. So being a very conscientious individual she has been making up for the lack of weight pulling by pulling more weight herself... Basically doing their jobs and making their decisions, in a bid to speed things up and get the work done.
I asked her to think back to when this happened first and how she handled it. She was very quickly able to get back to her first recollection and her immediate reaction, when initially, she felt let down or disappointed secretly and then she began taking on the task, having more work to do, until the team were not only allowing her to pull more weight, they were now critisising her when stuff didnt get done! Weird role reversal...
During the conversation she realised she had created this situation for herself. By being the one who continued to show up and take responsibility, she was not only taking on more responsibility for herself, she was taking it away from the team.
They were in turn feeling quite disempowered and also were low on morale as they were unable to be creative in the way they wanted to be in their roles. The next week she got the team together and they discussed this responsibility theme and each member felt strongly about it. They had witnessed the leader taking on more and more and assumed thats what she wanted or that she didnt think they were capable, so they let her take more and more on and felt more and more removed themselves!
An honest and open conversation ensued with the Leader allowing the responsibility to be shared back out amongst the team, as a result new ideas and new initiatives were discussed.
Of course, as leader you take overall accountability for the success/achievement of the project, thats why you are in a position of leadership but you have a team to help you deliver the goals and they are as keen for it to succeed as you are. Do remember to allow them to join in and to take responsibility for their own part in the goal...